Wait...what?

Ever since we got pregnant it's been interesting to watch people's reactions.

Some, who know we had been trying, are like "Finally!  That's great!  Congratulations!"

Some, who didn't know, but who have other lesbian friends or have gone through the process themselves say "That's awesome!"

And some who maybe aren't as familiar with the whole thing say "Wow!  Congrats!...Wait...What?!?"

Some people have asked us questions about our process along the way, others you can tell are wondering but are too polite or nervous to ask.  While I won't share all of the details here, I will share a little - with an invitation for questions from those who are wondering or curious.  I know it's a lot to take in for some of you :)  (Oh, and PS - you can stop reading if you don't want to hear about, you know, lady parts :)).

We decided years ago that we wanted to have kids.  We didn't know at that time what form that would take.  Would one of us carry a baby?  Would we foster?  Adopt?  We wanted to be somewhat settled, have a house, be done with school.  Once all of those things were accomplished we got more serious about figuring out how to go about starting a family.  After a lot of discussion, we decided I would try to get pregnant using donor sperm.  We spent a great deal of time pouring over donor profiles online (basically write ups about each donor), trying to find someone that sounded similar to Kristin in looks, heritage, and personality.  And finally, one evening while eating dinner at this table...

we settled on "the one."  He fit everything we were looking for and seemed to have a good sense of humor - just like Krisitn!  We called the sperm bank the next day and got the process started.

We decided to try doing IUI (intra-uterine insemination).  Think of it as middle of the line between turkey baster and IVF.  Basically I would go into the doctor's office for two appointments a month (when I was ovulating), and they would put the thawed sperm (delivered frozen from the sperm bank) into my uterus using a catheter.  While the procedure wasn't painful, it was annoying and quickly got a little old. This went on for several months before we added infertility medication.  After that didn't work, the doctor suggested we go in for infertility testing which wasn't covered by insurance (actually none of this was covered by insurance including the twice monthly doctor's appointments :-/ ).  I really didn't want to do the testing, and we probably couldn't have afforded it, so we decided to give it a couple more months (without the infertility medication) before re-evaluating.  I had pretty much given up.  I was sad that it likely wouldn't work but somewhat relieved that I wouldn't have to continue having these appointments month after month.  

And then, just as I had given up all hope?  Wa-la!  It worked!  I almost fell over when I saw the positive pregnancy test.  All of those months.  All of those appointments.  And it finally happened when I had pretty much given up...so crazy.

And now here we are...ready to welcome little Blueberry into our lives and into our family.  So many years of hoping and dreaming and planning.  I can't wait.  :)